That's overreacting imo unless you don't drive. If he gets caught while you are in the car, can you drive the car home? He may not be able to. If you can't drive, then you could be stuck. In that case, I wouldn't make any long distance trips with him.

Dating can be hard when you both have very different sensibilities of when things should be done. As the planner, it's very easy to fall into the 'doing it for him' trap - and then resent that you are doing everything even though he didn't ask you.

For this relationship to work, I think you need to find a way to let go of your feelings when he does this stuff. You can't change him, but you can change yourself. I do some stuff for my boyfriend and just let go of other stuff.

Interestingly (to me), I tend to procrastinate on car stuff WAY more than my boyfriend, even though I am more of a planner than he is. Maybe there is something you avoid doing? It helps me remember those things when I am frustrated that he is paying a late fee because he hasn't set up auto-pay.