Yeah, there certainly is a disconcerting side to this as well. And I'd never have this discussion with a cis person, I suppose, or in a space that I don't feel safe in as a trans* person.

When I say I believe it's possible that someone identifies as cis and trans in different phases of their life I don't want to imply that I could be cis if only I tried hard enough. So yeah, there definitely can be this aspect as well.

I remember someone identifying as trans (here on pc I think) saying that all they really wanted was to transition and live as, ultimately, a cis male. I had to think of this in this context.

Anyway, I'm rambling. Sorry if I got carried away.