I've found I rely on t a lot, but I dislike it greatly most of the time. Definitely in the camp of "relationship with t is important to healing"... just had a conversation with my mom the other night where she admitted her own issues with asking anyone figure anything, and how she tried to instill that "independence" in my brother and I from an early age. While a good message to get down the line, it kinda sucks at 1... so there's a lot of conflict for me with the whole "it's ok to trust someone else, rely on someone else, ask for help" concept, but at the same time I really wish I could for a lot of things.