Splash, thank you so much for your input. Yes, I have been in the same situation in the work place too, people just want to find someone who agrees with them. I do think that your insight into the wanting more discussion is true as my son lost his father at 17 and there are a lot of issues in that alone. I know that he maybe sometimes feels guilty with the relationship with my new husband and trys to spoil it in the fact that he feels disloyal and then my husband does the same in feelings that he doesn't meet up to my son's father. Also, there is I think alot of jealously going on with two strong male egos..yes or no? I know I am rambling but these are all the thoughts I have been having.