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Originally Posted by brokenentity
Sometimes I have dysphoria, sometimes I don't. Sometimes it's intense, other times it's barely there, I'm not sure why, I will never be sure. The only thing I know for sure is that I'm not happy this way. Sometimes I have pretty bad dysphoria during night time, I wake up and think 'what the heck was that all about?' and then it starts again when I go about my daily stuff.
I'm being honest, I could just pretend I have dysphoria all the time, but I don't..... I don't think Cis women feel women all the time nor do Cis men feel 'men' all the time.... but there is some elitism among some transgender people and I don't really like that.
If I express any kind of doubt, I'm immediately dismissed,
I am not desperate to call myself 'trans' or be associated with trans people.
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You suffer from dysphoria - ANY amount is enough to be labeled trans, no matter how infrequently it may occur. It is not a doctor, or a medical dictionary, or anyone else who can decide what you identify as. While diagnosis is helpful for transitioning, it's not like, ~peak transness~ or something.
Doubt is normal and healthy. Don't pay attention to those who dismiss you over something like that. Being trans and/or non-binary is not some exclusive club you need to pay membership to get into.
I don't think there is any intent for elitism... not here at least. I think some trans folks (perhaps elsewhere, from what I've witnessed) get frustrated with people who don't understand what dysphoria is or how it differs from people feeling uncomfortable with gender roles. Also, the recent trend of "political trans ppl" who think "being trans is a choice and a feel anyone can know and have" is really distressing for some of us.
That said, I disagree with those who say there are no requirements for being trans. If there weren't, everyone would be trans, and the term itself would lose all meaning.