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Originally Posted by OutofTune
You suffer from dysphoria - ANY amount is enough to be labeled trans, no matter how infrequently it may occur. It is not a doctor, or a medical dictionary, or anyone else who can decide what you identify as. While diagnosis is helpful for transitioning, it's not like, ~peak transness~ or something.
Doubt is normal and healthy. Don't pay attention to those who dismiss you over something like that. Being trans and/or non-binary is not some exclusive club you need to pay membership to get into.
I don't think there is any intent for elitism... not here at least. I think some trans folks (perhaps elsewhere, from what I've witnessed) get frustrated with people who don't understand what dysphoria is or how it differs from people feeling uncomfortable with gender roles. Also, the recent trend of "political trans ppl" who think "being trans is a choice and a feel anyone can know and have" is really distressing for some of us.
That said, I disagree with those who say there are no requirements for being trans. If there weren't, everyone would be trans, and the term itself would lose all meaning.
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I never really wanted to be trans, for the longest time I didn't have a label for myself, and all the issues I've had over the years made me realize I might be one.
But then again, being trans is not really an important part of my identity, It's something I try to hide, the majority of my posts here make no mention of it.
I'm not trans, male, female, cis, gay, bi or whatever, I'm just a person.
I feel like my life is just slipping away, Believe me I'd be the happiest person in the world if I could wake up tomorrow and have no confusion at all,
I feel stuck, it's not really just my appearance, It's about how people treat me, relationships, sex, and moving forward, being able to feel like you're really yourself.... There is no progression in my life, life has come to a standstill.
But I'm still alive, I still smile, I still treat people kindly, I still try to talk to people, I'm miserable, but on the outside, I'm OK, if people think I'm happy the way I am, it's fine with me, because I don't expect anymore from people and that I've given up on labels a long time ago. It's about normalcy in life, or maybe not..... maybe there is no such thing as normalcy....