hi ihave3girls,
I think your situation is very similiar to the way that i acted when i was around ten. I said i hated my mother, bad mood, constantly aloof....for me it was the result of past lack of affection (as others have mentioned.) and i turned this into aggression, perhaps she is doing the same thing?

It reminds me of a basic freudian principle, going back to the oedipus complex, penis envy, etc. In this case the root is jealousy which, in turn, could relate back to affection.

I've agreed with the others for the most part here, but on one thing i disagree. IMO (and having been in your daughter's place once) i don't recommend militant scolding for her behavior. I am not by any means saying her actions are "right" or "okay", but they have a deeper root i believe and scolding her immediate expressions of those emotions may only worsen the situation.

gl