I'll clarify about the boyfriend thing:
He was the first guy I'd fallen in love with, but I'd never had any experience past kissing. He was more experienced and when he wanted to move things further. I said no and gave my reasons. He said he understood at first and held off for about a week. Then he'd just sort of ...do it anyway. Petting, he'd have me give him handjobs (if that's not too graphic to say). He kept telling me he loved me, and this was ok because he loved me. I was uncomfortable and afraid, but didn't say anything. After all, he loved me; thereby he certainly wouldn't be doing anything to hurt me. I figured therefore the problem was with me. The last guy I'd dated before him broke up with me when I told him no. I didn't want that to happen again, so I just went along with it. Mentally tuned out.

I'm not sure if it counts as abuse because I stopped saying no.