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I am so impressed by how honest and direct you were able to be with him, how quickly you were able to sense something was amiss and verbalize it. I have the problem that I often don't feel what is wrong (or right) about therapy until after the session is over. Then I realize I am upset or sad or bewildered or whatever. I really look up to you for being able to sense your own feelings in the moment. How do you do that?

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Thanks, Sunny. Maybe you are able to sense your own feelings in the moment-- just not ready to recognize them yet. I believe that we know what we are feeling-- but it's up to our unconscious to decide if we are ready to recognize it. I think that I have started to feel safe enough with him that I can recognize and admit my feelings in the moment. It's difficult, especially when it has to do with anger towards him. It helps because he is so in tune with my emotions in the moment.

He told me yesterday that he can feel what I am feeling.

There are some emotions that I am not ready to recognize in the moment. Not safe enough yet. Been with him for almost 2 years. Have never shed a tear in front of him. Not once.

Sun, I think you said you have cried a bit in front of your T. If I am correct about this, then you have sensed your emotions in the moment. There is no deeper way to say, "I am sad," and to have him join you in that feeling.