Hi Moonkin, glad you are still here!

How's your cat?

No, I don't think she minds that you write. I think the incident is over; you have a right to say what you want and she has a right to repsond as she responds. But you sound like me in that you have not forgotten it and think she also has not forgotten it. And that one small thing can blow a friendship, and if you imagne that has happened then you feel disconnected and wonder if you can reconnect. It sounds like you have reconnected, or rather have stayed connected through this, so all is good.

You aren't a bad person at all. You seem to be a very nice and caring person to me.

Questions like you have about relationships and needs are great things to talk about and learn about in therapy, if you might want to try that. You already have keen insight into how you think and what you want. Therapy will help you get there.

Be good to you