A guy at work (who I hadn't met before) asked me to lunch this week. Before that, we exchanged a few fun (kind of flirty) e-mails. The day we met for lunch was the first time we met in person. I was so nervous, but as soon as I went outside to meet him, I felt so comfortable with him. Lunch was lovely. He's lovely. I'm more smitten than I want to be. Since then, he has stopped by my window twice a day to invite me on a smoke break with him. We've had nice chats.

He's a musician in his spare time and asked me to go see him play in a pub tonight. One of my colleagues said to me yesterday, "Have fun on your date tomorrow night!" and I responded with, "I don't think it's a date" and she said, "Of course it is!"

So, I really have no idea if it IS a date. I'm all befuddled. I'm afraid of misreading signals (again!) and getting disappointed or hurt. I like this guy much more than the last guy... and I wish I didn't. I used to trust my intuition and thought I was pretty good at reading guys' motives, but my recent experience with the British guy who was taking me out and then felt "no sparks" with me, confused the heck out of me...

I'm just rambling here. I'm nervous about tonight. This guy has such an effect on me and that's freaking me out because we just met. He makes me feel weak in the knees just by looking at me... and that scares me. Maybe he invites LOTS of girls to see him play. I dunno. I'm so freaking nervous and confused. I really want him to like me the way I like him. I really don't want to get hurt.

Any thoughts? Does the lunch thing sound like a date? Do you think I'm going on a date tonight?