you are doing the best you can with what you have.

i know it feels shameful, but one slip up doesn't negate all the time you've spent not doing it. it's a hiccup. that's it. when we hurt, that which comforted us is easy to go back to.

you didn't fail. you didn't mess up. you just tripped for a moment. it's okay. we all do sometimes.

i found dbt really helpful for replacing my SI with healthy coping mechanisms. i've chosen my SI twice since completing dbt years ago and it doesn't hold the same power as it did. i regretted it but i also knew it didn't define me.

it doesn't define you.

it's okay. it's okay that you had a tough day. and it's okay to feel what you feel.