Perhaps it would be wise to let this all settle for a few days. If you want to reach out again after this initial let-down, it's okay. If you don't, that's okay, too.

Seeing he has debt collectors hounding him, including an agency known for abusive tactics, it's not surprising to me that he would change his phone number and not let anyone know. He may even be using a disposable phone in order to remain more anonymous. That former neighbor I mentioned in a previous post, that's what she does. Changes her number frequently, running from creditors and people she lied to or fought with. To me, it's no way to live, but some people ... you know, there's no accounting for how people will behave when they're struggling with an emotional disturbance on practically a daily basis

The only question is what you want to do. What's best for you? What had you better do, for you, so you don't have to live with regret or guilt about what you did or didn't do? And, really, only you can answer that. There is no right or wrong answer on this one. Just what you can handle at this particular point in time. It may change later. Or not.

But right now, you did your best. You got your courage up and did a difficult thing. For that, you deserve kudos and congratulations. Well done, just for dialing the phone and speaking. The rest was all out of your control. But you .. you did just fine.