SadMommy, him lying to you is worst then anything he may be doing to/with his ex secretary. While you're at home taking care of HIS handicapped daughter, this "good Christian" is out doing God knows what with his ex-secretary. I think there's a lot more to it then just the pictures. I would not send a picture like that to my ex-boss unless there was something going on between us. There's just no way. He's blaming this all on you, making you feel like it's all somehow your fault and it isn't. If he's frustrated with not getting enough affection at home then he can talk to you about it and if neccessary, get counsling involved-you don't go and run off and start having an affair with someone. It's a cheap excuse for this man who likes to call himself a "good Christian". It makes me sick that he uses his religion as a shield. What a total moronic jackass. You deserve better. Dump this loser 'cause things are only going to get worst. He's playing you like a cheap violin. He's not willing to admit there's something going on to you, he's not willing to go to counsling, he's now going to play all nicey nice with you and try to pacify you with fakeness. He's not looking to make things right, SadMommy, he's just looking to lay low and cover his *** until the air has cleared so he can sneak off and try this crap again behind your back. You can do soooo much better. He's only going to make you crazy-you're already acting crazy with the fake email accounts and going after the ex secretary. Go after HIM, with a lawyer!