Hi! Age is just a number and I still feel like throat punching anyone who calls me Ma'am. I'm 44, perimemopause, no kids, deteriorating 7 yr marriage and went from healthy to obese on anti psychotics, yay! I waffle back and forth over divorce for fear of loneliness and my husband is a complete ***.

I try to walk 25 miles a week, pilates 3x's and light arm weights 3x's. I'm working on my healthy diet because dang I love my carbs. Switching from AP to anti-seizure meds with no life style change has so far dropped 20 lbs. I think it's important to know that you don't need a man to define you as a person. If it happens great, but using the practice of mindfulness we know it's out of our control and therefore a waste of energy. If I do live alone it won't mean the many blessings in my life are any less significant. Here's a good book and there's also a smart phone App

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/038530...dir_mdp_mobile