This may sound really scattered but I'm in over my head:
I live with my sister and her husband and 1.5 yr old son. I believe my sister is being emotionally abused daily and I know she has been physically abused once. They've always fought a lot but it seems to be different lately. She never seems to be happy anymore. J(her husband) yells and curses at her all the time and demeans her saying she's fat and lazy. The latest thing I heard was that he said she couldn't lay in the bed because she was too fat and is ruining it. He recently got sent to detox for 48 hours because he got drunk and harassed the neighbors. Sometimes he seem bipolar. My sister says the only times he's nice lately is when he is high (weed). I live there too and he has very seldom said anything to me, but H (my sister) tells me that if I do something J doesn't like, he takes it out on her when I'm not home. H has asked me not to tell anyone. I have told our mom some of it but not the physical stuff. My mom would like to speak to her about it without giving away that I have told her anything because we don't want H to not confide in me. H works nights and I've never seen J do anything to the baby but he has yelled some horrible things at the baby. J abuses the dogs too. My friends say that I need to get out of there because it's unhealthy for me there. I just hole up in my room because I don't want to do anything to make J mad and take it out on my sister. I can't really afford to leave and even if i could, I don't want H to be alone. She no longer has any friends. J is also an immigrant from South America. He is legal but he was almost deported due to his record. He gets to stay because now "he's married and a father and turned his life around" but his recent trip to detox says otherwise. H often says that she thinks J just used her to stay in the country. If immigration finds out about his new thing with the law he could get deported. I sometimes think that's what H needs because I don't think she will ever leave him.
I don't know what to do here. Do I take care of me and move out? What can I do to help her? Will J eventually abuse the baby when he's older? Should I try and get J deported? Should I tell my mom everything? I just need some Help