Thanks a lot!
I also feel this behavior in my own. And its not only about attention; its about a favor, a thing, intimacy, everything. Sometimes I think I am programmed to manipulate to obtain anything,.. as someone told me at one other place - even the things I could get only by asking, from the people who have it a lot... simply and direct ASKING for something is not an option cause I've learned that asking equals NO.
Guess its worth trying this behavior of ASKING as a project