Grey Matter said, "I always believe it unfair to blame sexuality identity on hormones, we don't blame straight childrens sexuality on hormones and illness, do we?"

What an excellent comment! Real food for thought. It applies to fetishes, too. I truly don't know the origins of my fetishes, but, while they first assaulted me early in puberty, I was having very "fetishy" thoughts long before that. My wife has no fetishes, but I've never thought to explain that by saying that her hormones forced non-fetishism on her! I believe that her experiences, and her gender, made her the sexual person she is, as my experiences and my gender made me the sexual person I am. Especially the experiences in my case: exposure to a lot of sexual though and activity outside my home, but inside my home a nearly absolute proscription against pre-marital sex.

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