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Originally Posted by ChipperMonkey
Your therapist is one of those idiots out there in the world who thinks that there is no reason for a child to cut off a parent. I really want to smack people like this because it makes me ashamed to have almost totally cut off my abusive, narcissistic mother.
In the end it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. If he's crossed too many lines, then don't feel bad about not calling him. My mom's birthday is coming up soon, and I will call her to wish her a happy birthday, but no, I won't be seeing her and I won't be getting her a gift. Contact with her will likely dwindle even further in the near future.
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I really hate that, too! I'm always thinking to myself,
Who are you to tell me I HAVE to have a relationship with my parents??? You don't know them or how they have treated me over time. I hate when people say, "Oh, you still love her because she's your mom!" People do that to me a lot with my sister, who I truly hate. "Oh, but she's your sister, you love her!" Uh, no, I don't, & it's not your place to tell me I love her, either!
You're right, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I don't defend myself to anyone. I explain my position & if someone doesn't like it, that's their problem. I don't tell them how to interact with their family. My family stopped doing birthday calls/wishes a long time ago. When I was in the military, my family never called me except during xmas, when my mom would call me because she was drunk & suddenly remembered she had a daughter. We don't do holidays together as a family, & don't send each other xmas cards. My mom gave us a xmas card last year, but I think it's because she lives here, to be honest.
Wow, okay...I do sound really bitter today. I guess I needed to get that off my chest. Sorry for derailing the thread.