I was in a long-term relationship with someone who behaved just like your bf and it ultimately didn't work out because of that. I realized that I was doing well more than my share of the work, I was stressed out all the time, it felt like I had a dead weight attached to me and, when **** hit the fan, THEN she would come to me and ask for my help-- the help she kept on refusing, which led to the problem in the first place. Imagine having children with someone like that. What if the kid needs to go to the doctor to get vaccinations? Or needs papers signed for school? Or needs to get registered for summer camp? I can't imagine someone like my ex being capable of managing all of those details in a timely and efficient manner. Can you do all of that alone without feeling resentful? Or imagine your future child riding in the car with a parent who has an expired license? Procrastinators don't change, at least not without a significant desire to change and a willingness to put in the effort.

If you aren't willing to end the relationship, then I would just refuse to ride in the car with him. I wouldn't want to involve myself in an illegal situation. Maybe then he would start to get the point? But I doubt it would translate into anything beyond the car situation. It just sounds like he is irresponsible and doesn't take his responsibilities seriously.