Thanks alot! You don't think it would be a breach of trust to ask an outsider about my mom's brother? Actually... I've been thinking about asking my dad (who is divorced from my mom) whether she ever talked to him about it. Maybe he can give more insight first.
Maybe it's selfish to want to know. But it feels like a skeleton in the closet. I don't want to be disrespectful: I just want to understand my mother & her parents & my aunt better. My grandparents especially are distant to me, partly because of their religious fervor, but I know it's because of him. I know their faith is largely because of what happened, a survival tactic. I guess I just want to be more compassionate to them.