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Originally Posted by guilloche
My concern would be... if your mom hasn't had any therapy or any way to really process this, it might be quite traumatic for her. If you push her to open up to you, it could put her in a really bad place. I don't know - since I don't know you or her. I know that there's stuff in my past that, if pushed by someone (even someone with good intentions) would be too much for me to deal with.
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I second this. If your mother doesn't wish to talk about this, you need to respect that wish, as it's probably something she's doing for very deep reasons.
I see nothing wrong with contact the classmate who created the blog, though. I don't think asking other people, be they your father or the classmate, is a breach of trust. You're just trying to understand your life and where you came from better. It's still possible your mother will get upset, but honestly that would be her own issue to deal with. You have the right to ask about your own uncle as long as the other person is comfortable answering and not going to be traumatized by it (I would take the classmate's blog as a sign they
want to talk about him).
Good luck and I hope you find some answers that help you.