Lone Pyromancer: I have fantasized about having sex with many women, but I have remained faithful to my wife, at least in what I do if not what I think about. I have fantasized about my wife joining me in my fetishes. I have fantasized about sharing my fetishes with women other than my wife. I have fantasized about being locked in a department store and trying on every pair of panties I can find. I have fantasized about cross-dressing and walking down the street on a warm, spring day and letting the wind blow up my skirt.

Despite all of that fantasizing, I've been fully employed throughout my life. I've won awards, had my writing published, helped raise a child, been in combat, and had people depend on me in many ways. In short, I am not my fantasies, and you are not your fantasies. But my fantasies help me get through the days, and they can help you too as long as you recognize that they are a small but important part of your identity.

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