I think you should call her out on it. Who knows, maybe there's a reasonable explanation for her behavior?

I've been in a situation like this. Actually, several. And in all of the scenarios, there has been a logical explanation. First time it happened, the boy was having some family issues, and didn't have much time for me. Of course at the time, I was too blinded by my own emotions to realize that. Funny thing was that he became responsive when we were talking about sex. I was seriously considering having sex with him just so I could get attention from him.

Now it's a little different. The boy I fancy at the moment is too busy with work and too caught up in his own needs to spend time with me. I left him quite a long text about this and I gave him an ultimatum: either spend time with me or get out of my life. (NOT a good thing to do, by the way.) He's experienced my paranoid delusions and my emotional instability, yet somehow he hasn't run away screaming.

Anyways, moral of the story is that there's nothing wrong with calling someone out on behavior that bothers you. As long as you word it right, everything should go smoothly. When you're mentally ill, it's hard to tell whether or not your irritation is rational or irrational. Your qualms are totally valid, however. Feeling used sucks, man.

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