I think men and women might view this a little differently, but I wonder what you all think.

A friend of mine is single, around 36 and male. We were talking the other day about how many partners he thinks is too many- or at what point he would not sleep with a someone because of how many partners she has had. I, for example, and 34 and have had 8 partners. I'm feelig pretty crappy about that lately. When I ask my female friends what they think is average for a woman my age, they say like 3-5. Then I ask my guy friends and they say 10-15.

What is average for a single woman and a single male at age 35? Should I feel bad? I have never had a one night stand-and everyone I have had sex with have been men I've been in a committed relationship with and truely care about. But why, after my conversation with my guy friend do I feel like crap?

He asked me if I regret any of it. I said no. Again- I was in a committed relationship with a guy -at the time, who I probably thought I could end up bein with for a long time and/or marrying. So why do I still feel like dirt?