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Originally Posted by SnakeCharmer
This thing about serving his mother and obeying him ... how literal is that?
If the two of you do, indeed, come from different religious or political backgrounds, then I applaud you for trying to figure these things out before marriage. It's important to find out if there are some deal breakers for either you or him?
P.S. I just noticed you're from Egypt. Sorry that I didn't notice that before. The different beliefs between a traditional man and a more modern woman can create big conflict. Keep talking and perhaps you can come to compromise.
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What he said about his sister in law was literally the word "serve" (my sister in law is supposed to serve my mother)
We are both from Egypt, we are open minded though, we share the same religious, cultural beliefs, we both refuse what the society is pushing us to do, we share the same values that is different from the society we live in so no problems there .
The problem is that he doesn't like to appear as a bad person/a bad son expressing his rejection to society and that makes him adopt a traditional behavior in front of others (because here in Egypt being that different could result in losing everyone around) but I am not .
He's asking me to allow him to practice that traditional behavior with me only in front of people but I can't stand it ! I was never used to suppress my beliefs, I am not so much afraid of people hating me for my beliefs as he is .
And according to that (tradition) the wife should be more obedient to her husband and that would extend to his family as well.
He's kinda torn between the two ideas, he's liberal, but he's afraid to show it, but being a conservative/traditional may hurt some people around him as well, so he doesn't know what to do. But I think he's more afraid of that kind of hatred than hurting some people around (me being one of them)