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Originally Posted by Depletion
Does anyone have any ideas for how I should bring this up with T, I really don't have a clue. And just having to do it is kind of triggering. I had a ton of terrible conversations with my mom during my teens about how she wasn't being a good mother to me. I always ended up getting blamed for not accepting her. I'm really afraid of T having a similar reaction. If you were me how would you start such a conversation?
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It sounds like you view this as accusing/criticizing your T which is understandable from what you say of conversations with your mother. But it needn't be that way.
Try to be specific about situations or statements that were upsetting to you, rather than general statements (like "You always seem so X"). Keep the focus on the feelings you notice
in yourself when she says or does these things. As long as the focus is on
your thoughts and feelings and reactions, it won't be accusatory.