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Originally Posted by Travelinglady
Hi, michelle666, and welcome! Remember, as you say, that no one is perfect. And I think marriage vows should be taken seriously. What you seem to be describing seems more like lust or some gut attraction to these other people. It will be important to make sure you can be satisfied with one person if you do marry. My two cents' worth anyway. Maybe you can talk to a therapist about this concern of yours and what to do if it does happen.   |
Thanks for getting back to me! I think it is maybe gut attraction to other people :/ I know My man is the one so I guess i just worry that if we did ever get married or on our 1st anniversary I would think of the other guy because I know I'm not supposed to- It used to happen a lot but as I spend more time with him and fall more in love it happens less
. I guess I wish I could erase the other guy from my brain almost as if I'd have never met him- Makes me feel uncomfortable but I just think of my guy and reassure myself and I feel better. I am getting CBT so maybe that will help. If i'm honest I'd be happy with my man for the rest of my life
- But i realise that rushing is in not the way forward for marriage at least- We are moving in together soon. Thanks for the hug too. !
*I guess sometime i get overwhelmed with emotion and think that maybe I am better suited to this other guy- that I would have something deeper with him. That's the part i think that really hurts- It used to drive me insane but one day I woke up and came to the realisation that i would never know,i don't want to know and He isn't. It was hard going to uni and having a new relationship which was maybe why i felt something that used to not go away, but when I spent more time and spending more time with him I woke up one day and felt more in love and head over heels with my boyfriend- A connection in a deeper different way. Someone that also has problems as he does and puts up with my crazy and my problems and my feelings, makes me laughs and get me and just being him is the one for me. He wins and I love him for that.
**Or maybe I think that i'm an evil ***** for that fact that i wanted to pursue something with another person when this man gave me himself and still does. Or that maybe there is still something in there but like I said I want to be with my boy for the rest of my life- he is part of me now <3. You can see my predicament- I can't stop but it was worse a few months ago. I guess an important thing would be that I get on with it, I'm a little more secure :/.
Also Can i have some help with this choice- I told him i was on this site but said I didn't post anything- i just read other peoples . I feel guilty and think maybe i should tell him the truth.