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This is SO TRICKY and most of the time very hard to do. I completely understand you do not want to let go of someone from your past that knows you well.
At the same time - I'm not sure jealousy will not rear it's ugly head. I know you said your wife is not jealous - but it is a very hard emotion to control.
Many friends male and female lose touch with friends because they start dating and that person is taking up most of their thoughts.
If you let your friend go - you will grieve. On the other hand - the more you "cannot have something" many times the more you want it.
This is a tough one - not sure I am very helpful. I recognize this could be something I would encounter in my life.
Good luck.
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“A person is also mentally weak by the quantity of time he spends to sneak peek into others lives to devalue and degrade the quality of his own life.” Anuj Somany
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