I actually made more eye contact when I first started seeing T than I do now. I think that for me, constantly having to keep eye contact was an issue of trust - I was trying to read my T's every expression and reaction to what I was telling her, to try to decide what was safe to share.

Now, I tend to make eye contact when I need to feel a strong connection with T, when I want to make sure she understands what I'm saying, or when I need something to focus on to stay grounded. Keeping eye contact with T when I feel like I'm dissociating will help me stay grounded. I always make eye contact or at least look at T, even it it's not her eyes, when she's speaking to me.

When I'm talking about particularly difficult stuff, or trying to think or remember something, I tend to focus on a far corner of the wall. I'm not really looking at anything, just where my eyes settle ask I think or try to look inside myself.