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Originally Posted by iheartjacques
I don't know. I'm used to T's sitting directly opposite in a chair with nothing in between. But they haven't moved closer. One t did sit in a chair on a 45 degree angle and she was close enough to put her hand on my knee and say she was so sorry when I was upset after finding out my husband had cheated on me.
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My therapist has rolled her chair closer to mine when she's sensed I needed to feel connected, and she's also done it when she's sensed me being disconnected. When I'm 'in good shape' she is at a normal distance - not too far a nd not too close. But I think that if she sensed I didn't like it, she wouldn't try to push it on me. She's really good in that way.. very attuned to my reactions to things. When I was going thru a difficult time I became very accustomed to her being close. Then one day I came for session and.she had a family crisis going on and was distracted... And sitting further away. It was funny how I felt about the distance. I didn't like it because I felt very raw. We had never discussed her habit of pulling up close when I was having a tough time. But I finally said 'you're too far away' and she smiled with warmth and delight as she rolled closer. That felt really good to me.