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Originally Posted by -jimi-
He seems to have some serious issues. It seems like neither of you guys can communicate and that you guys barely know each other. It's nothing you build a relationship on. I notice that you don't really communicate either, like with anyone who replies on here, it is like we don't even exist. If you treat your husband like that and he treats you in a similar manner, well, I can see why things don't go well then.
If you don't have any feelings for him and just want him around to produce money and find him a drain on yours, maybe it IS time to break things off? He doesn't seem any happier with you than you with him so it is probably mutual. I think you probably need to realize he is not healthy and if you can't or don't want to support him, it's not healthy for you to live with him and just keep talking about how bad he is. It is your only life and you decide if you want to spend it like this.
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I'm sorry I don't respond to anyone, but I'm just so damn angry at what he's doing that i just want to vent! If I tell him ALL I know about what he's been doing (and it's a LOT of lies!) he will go ballistic and immediately tell me I don't trust him, I'm just like his ex, I snoop and go behind his back. He will make me feel like I am the reason he's not working or something! NONE of it will be his fault. And I CANNOT stand it when he or anyone is angry at me even though I have every right to feel the way I do. I will end up being mad at him for 30 minutes and then won't be able to take it and will say I'm sorry I didn't believe you or something. I don't have a freaking backbone!
I found out via his bank account back in March that he went to breakfast one morning 30 minutes out of his way rather than go to work. I caught him and he told me lie after lie as to why he was there. He changed his password. Well today I type in another password and it was correct. Turns out last Monday he did the same thing and had breakfast at this same place. So he isn't making any money but decides to go eat breakfast somewhere 45 minutes away and use up gas in his car that he can't afford to fill up. All this rather than tell me he isn't going into work!
My husband worships the ground I walk on and say that he is so happy he met me and how I turned around his life. Yeah with MY money! He would never ever leave me and I'm too ingrained in my relationship with him to leave him.