I guess I don't understand what the big draw is with this woman? You'd have to essentially give up your whole life in order to be with her AND change a lot about yourself. She doesn't love you and accept you for who you are. She can't even be bothered to get a tourist visa so that she can come and see you?

I honestly don't get it. Relationships are supposed to be give and take. This one is not. You're not the first guy I've seen posting within the last day about giving in to his woman's every whim. Yeah, it sounds great, give her what she wants so that she's happy and wants to be with you, but honestly that's not exactly a recipe for long term success when one party is selfish and taking and the other is giving to a fault.