we just had the talk and he relieved me a lot, he said that those hypothetical situations just pop in his mind sometimes and it's unlikely to happen for real, and even if it happened he would never force me to do something I don't want to do (which proven right through our three years together), and even though he would like to see us (his family and I) get closer,he would like it if I treat his mother the same way I treat my mother but it's totally my choice to be as much involved with his family as I want, no pressure, no worries.

He also said that we are much more important than all those things, if one of us can't handle pressure at some point then it's not worth jeopardizing our relationship, and if some of our concerns would cause us trouble, it's better that we deal with it in a way that keeps us together not tear us apart.

I think I am lucky ..

Thanks a lot for helping everyone