Thank you all for taking the time to help. He actually ended up telling me that he had been seeing her. They were friends first and he didn't expect anything to come of it bc of the age difference. But the more time he spent with her, he realized that she didn't look or even act her age. She was young acting and full if life. They had a lot in common and viewed life similarly. He basically told me what he told her in the text. I asked why he needed to see her to explain, though. He laughed and said that she wasn't the only one angry with him about changing his status on FB. He blew off all the others reactions except hers. This sort of bothered me. But I let him talk. He felt very bad for not telling her bc she was an amazing person. He never would want to do anything to hurt her bc he felt safe that she would have never hurt him. His feelings grew for her, yet things came out of nowhere between us. He had feelings for me as well. He was torn and asked his friends for advice. They told him that he wasn't thinking about how things would be in the future for them. I mean, when he's close to his 40's, she'd be close to 60. That was really the deciding factor. Him and I make more sense. But he apparently did have strong feelings for her despite the age difference. So, this evening he met up with her. I told him I was ok with it. But truthfully it wasn't easy knowing he was with her even if it was for just explaining. He apparently bought her dinner and they talked. He was a little surprised bc she really didn't want to know what had happened. But he told her anyway. According to him, she was really understanding and sweet about it. I guess she was happy for him and me. The problem was that he disclosed more about us than I would have wanted her or anyone to know. The fact that my mom doesn't like him bc he's a correction officer. He told her about my mom emailing him about how he'd never be good enough for me bc I'm going into medicine. She doesn't approve bc he won't be able to provide for me like she thinks I need. And bc he has two very young kids by two different mothers. One of which doesn't like me bc I'm not white. But maybe I'm again overreacting. He did tell me himself though .