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Originally Posted by shakespeare47
At one point he tells me I'm his best friend (I know, kinda weird, right). I started trying to get away... but still tried to be polite... anyway he pulls crap like being a total **** and then accuses me of ignoring him when I tried to ignore him and get away.
Things start to escalate when his wife sends me an email and accuses me of all kinds of weird things, and in the email says she thinks it's funny that I think I'm the guys best friend (I know! Really weird, right?). Then we traded a few more emails before he tells me he's blocking my email address.
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Full grown adults who behave this way are definitely going to be problematic. I've met couples like this. Their confidence in their loyalty to one another allows them to use others as tools for their own connection. Sort of a relentless hunger that is only satisfied by the blood of others, and only temporarily. It's easier and more satisfying for them to enjoy familiar flavors, to find new ways in which to toy with those they've already identified as common enemies, spurred on by what can be very negligible offenses that they perceive. From the time that they've established a solidarity about their opinions on a person, that person is fair game.
In my opinion it's why some married couples end up having "less friends." These weird power games that people get engaged in, to feel a power in their marriage to be committed to, when the power of a more humane quality of love is not available to them.
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