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Originally Posted by bluedonna92
Thanks for the comments! My brother used to play at nursing homes actually, but there's no telling if he enjoyed playing for such audiences. He slowly stopped doing that, I guess because it requires regular contact with the nursing home administrators, since the gigs weren't regular. I know he loves to play piano and perform, so it'd be great if he could do that again.
I don't know if he'd be miserable in an office. Maybe it would be too interactive for him, but I can't see a lot of other jobs in sight, and really hope he doesn't get stuck at CVS or stop and shop for his entire life... At least in an office he could fix computers and have hopes of promotion, and maybe increase his social skills.
I did think that an enforced schedule could help, but as he gets older, the ability of anyone to enforce anything in him is less and less. My dad can't even get him to do chores around the house. The only thing that got him motivated was when his computer was taken away until he could get a job (he was unemployed for around 2 years and living at home after college). That may be the only thing that will get him going this time... though all it did last time was get him a job at Stop n Shop
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If he is an adult than I think it would be inappropriate to take away his computer if it is his property and probably illegal...not to mention that is humilating and degrading to an adult....there are also executive functioning difficulties and stuff that can make it hard to get chores done....does he like outright refuse....or does it seem more like he forgets, or gets side tracked and doesn't get stuff done?
Also though maybe he has trouble holding a job....if the best he can do is Stop n Shop what is wrong with that? A lot of people with autism aren't even able to hold a job at all....I myself happen to be on SSI, though I have other issues aside from the autism. But perhaps he should look into that if he actually has too much difficulty working.
Honestly though the worst thing to do is expect he'll just become normal. I mean sometimes people assume if someone with autism is immersed in social situations they'll just learn social skills and how to act more 'normal' but much of the time you just end up facing a bunch of bullying or ostracism because you don't interact normally and people don't like that...and just develop social anxiety on top of trouble socializing due to the autism. But that is sort of based on my own experience to.