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Originally Posted by Raindropvampire
Would he be willing to compromise if you told him how much this means to you? Like for instance would he set aside the hours of 6-8pm (or whatever works for you two) each night? If not every night then 3-4 times a week. You could sit and talk, have a meal, watch TV, go to a movie etc..
I am not a cuddly person by any means and I am very much a loner. To me being in the same room with someone is spending time with them whether we interact or not. Hubby felt very used because he said it seemed the only time I wanted to be near him was for sex. So on days he's home I make sure that I spend at least 90 minutes sitting next to him holding his hand, cuddling, talking or what have you. I also agreed to one date night a week. Usually we're broke so it consists of us sitting outside watching the stars and having a deep conversation but I know it means the world to him.
We have many ups and downs and he can be very selfish himself at times but this compromise has made a world of difference for us. Good luck to you two
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I would love to have that compromise and have asked for it before....... BUT sadly my husband has turned into a selfish depressed man and only does some thing these days IF he wants to (and) that usually leaves me hanging in the dark.
..... hence why I feel I need a guy friend (right or wrong) its how I feel.