When I was in my teens and twenties I was extremely needy to the point of driving people away. Many friends commented on my neediness so eventually I decided I was going to need no one and swung the other way, spending most of my time alone, never asking for help etc. Now in my late 30's I have found some balance but I still struggle to ask for help in case I drive my loved ones away. My new boyfriend has begged me to come to him when I am struggling as I tend to withdraw instead. I find it scary to ask for help so this is still a big issue with me.