Your father's reaction is definitely wrong. No one has the right to force you to do what you don't want to. I guess your father won't take anyone's help, but he surely needs it. Just try and cope with him, understanding that he might not be in his right mind. I don't want to sound cruel, but, what would you do if he was diagnosed with some mental disorder and he refused to take treatment? I may not be the best person to give any piece of advice, but you can use my thoughts to think about some things and find your own way to deal with this.

Everyone has been through some sort of things that left a mark. Maybe your father has unresolved issues that made him so aggressive. Remember that everyone has a past and try to understand that this behaviour has a cause. It could be guilt, shame, pain, lack of confidence, I don't know.

I try to picture my mother as a woman who was young once and I can't imagine all that she has been through, even though she told me a lot of things that caused her so much pain. This has helped me a lot to keep the fights to minimum, but I lose control easily under any circumstance. Maybe this will help you much more that it has helped me.

And about control and rebellion... It never turns out fine. Both of you are controlling, the only difference is that you want to control yourself and he wants to control someone else's life: yours. Maybe you can try and please him from time to time, obviously, when his demands are reasonable. But please him, do not obey. There is the huge difference between wanting to make him happy and having to do what he wants.

My best wishes for you. And one last piece of advice: do your best to finally forgive your father. "Things are not so easily forgotten." We all deserve forgiveness, because we all are going to need it.