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Originally Posted by mkat16
Hi I have been jealous and mistrusting of people since I was a child, I think it came from my parents who were separated and very bitter and always telling me lies to get me on their side. Because of this I think I always distrusted people.
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You've got that right. Jealousy comes from inadequacy and bad self esteem which comes from inadequate and emotionally damaging parents/parenting. It all comes from fear but some parents are more fearful and disturbed than others so you have ended up with terrible insecurity and JEALOUSY thanks to faulty parenting.
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and I have often cause issues over my jealousy etc.
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IMO, the insecurity which causes jealousy has to be confronted and ELIMINATED as best we can or you will never be happy no matter what.
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I just want to let go of this jealousy and anger that is triggered by this and be happy. I don't want to just obsess and worry if he's out without me. I should also say again that I have always been like this with everyone so I think it's more stuff I need to learn to change(just don't know how),
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That is the same problem most people have - they just don't know how! I dealt with my insecurities and jealousy by getting to work on my Self esteem and self worth in any way that I could. I went to workshops, support groups, read many books, listened to tapes and now we have all of these internet resources so google: self esteem, self respect and get started FIXING yours before your insecurities wreck everything. Did you say you have a therapist? Then ask your therapist to help you fix it. Another thing that can overcome bad self esteem is a Spiritual Awakening so look into some Spiritual stuff.
good luck
