Thanks. I hope rather than know that the husband has some mental illness, or personality disorder that is not being treated... and that if he were to get help, perhaps he could start to *ahem* control his behavior.

As you can see from my previous posts... there are times when I have vindictive thoughts in regards to this guy... I wish I could be rid of those types of thoughts.

If you've never been in a truly toxic church (remember during part of the time, this guy was my pastor!)... then it's probably difficult to imagine the damage these people can do.

I just want to get away... but, I'm telling you, I would seriously consider writing a letter to the board of any church he might pastor. I'm not quite sure what I would say except perhaps "please keep an eye on this guy!". And even then, I'd be afraid of how he might react if he knew that I had written the letter.

and really. I think his problems and issues do show up rather quickly. and I wouldn't be surprised if that's why he is no longer a pastor. So, perhaps no warning letter is necessary. People just see what I saw.