I tried to talk with her last night. She was pissed off that " I took what she said the wrong way" There was no suggestion as to how I should have taken it.

I am flawed in many ways but I try to improve. My m/o has been to ignore and suppress . There has been hurtful comments from both sides in the past and when discussing issues my Wife usually defaults to being hateful and rubbing salt in any wound she can find.

I think I should try to put the incident behind me.

I am slowly reading and working through a book about Mindful Thinking. I don't know how she intended the comment and probably never will. Only thing that can change is the way I react and think about the situation/conversation.