Well maybe going back to the electronic for a while wouldn't be a terrible idea...or if you are trying to get out of the habit of puffing on something, there are things like nicotine patches and nicotine gum and some medications that are supposed to get rid of nicotine cravings. Seems like you're having some withdrawl from going without the nicotine...so you might need to taper slower than your husband did.

I mean i think sometimes its good for people to try to quit together, but everyone is different and might not be able to do it at the same pace...seems like that could be part of your issue. But that is why it is considered an addiction if you could just easily up and quit there would be no problem the issue is wanting to quit but can't or getting irritable and what not when you try...some people need outside help, some people just quit cold turkey on their own and some people have to gradually cut down and quit.