Selfish witch??? If the persuit of happiness and self-preservation makes you one, then I say by all means go ahead and be a selfish witch! I'm one too!!!

You are doing the right thing, this man had no inclination to work on your relationship nor any intention of meeting your needs, let alone making you happy.

A LOVING partner wants what's best for you, and behaves in ways that reflect that. They want to see you happy and will move mountains to do so.

Seems like he was just comfortable with having you around, and never made an effort because he never thought you'd have the balls to go out and make a better life for yourself. Without him.

You're like his security blanket, no matter how many other girls he screws, you're the one that's always there, the one that's always happy to have him around... the one that could never live without him.

My friend has a bf just like him, but sadly in her case, he's right. She won't leave no matter how miserable she is. So he does exactly as he pleases, with whom ever he pleases, because why the hell not?

You did the right thing walking away, even if you never mentioned the cheating, the way he's been treating you since living together is enough reason to leave. Because WTF would you get out of staying?

He didn't talk to you, he avoided you, refused to have sex with you, insulted you, blamed you for everything wrong in the relationship, showed ZERO accountability as if he was some 3 year old...

What was his oh so important role in YOUR life, that you would even think of letting him repeat it?

He has served ABSOLUTELY NO PURPOSE in your life over the past 7 months... think about it. Besides having the official title of BF, what did he do that you cannot absolutely do without or go find elsewhere???

Dammit, you can't even call him your friend, that would be something tangible to work with, a foundation to build something new on...

He's definitely not irreplacable... no matter which way you slice it.

Move forward, hold on to all the positives you've been experiencing thus far and let it lead you as far away from him as possible.
Let your new found happiness guide you...

Also... NOBODY picks up an empty condom wrapper ACCIDENTALLY. Firstly, why are you picking up random condoms, and secondly, why not just immediately chuck it away? What on God's green Earth would make you choose to stick someone else's condom wrapper in your pocket???

That's like the time I told my mom the blunts she found in my bag was someone else's.
It got stuck in my bag accidentally as I was throwing out all the weed and stuff these bad kids had snuck into our party... I was 18 I choked and I told a stupid lie that didn't really hold up against scrutiny, but my mom decided to play ostrich and stick her head in the sand instead of confronting the fact that her princess clearly smoked the ole MJ on the regular...

But that was the old irresponsible teenaged me. If I still smoked MJ today I would actually admit to it, and face the consequences.
Not that she can ground me, but she'd most definitly see me in a different light after that.

Honestly? This dude sounds like a loser and doesn't derserve to lick the ground you walk on. Don't let guilt and what ifs trap you.

You've wasted 9 years with him, trust me, you've covered ALL your what ifs.

Don't waste a second more of your pretty on him, there are men out there willing to appreciate you and treat you like a valued humanbeing. Don't reject the opportunity for love and happiness out of misplaced loyalty.

Be loyal to you and your kids.

A happy mommy equals happy babies.