I'm still trying to bounce back from a difficult divorce myself. Parenting separately is challenging, especially if there is little or no communication between the parents, like with us.

Separate birthday parties and other events have become pretty normal in our family, I just try to put a positive spin on it by saying that they get 2 birthdays and 2 christmases etc. and they seem to understand. They know mommy and daddy don't talk so they aren't surprised by not being able to do things together.

As for meeting new families and kids to play with -- I think playgroups such as those sometimes held at libraries etc. are a great place to start. Maybe join the PTO or just start going to all the after school events and such. I've met some parents through my son's Boy Scouts troop.

I think you will do just fine. Sounds like you're determined to do the best job you can. The divorce can suck the life out of you, try to hold your head up I promise it gets better it just takes time. Watch your sleep and see your doc if you think your meds need tweaking before it gets out of control (it can happen easily under the stress of a divorce.)

And of course come back and talk to us. You can always count on your emotionally stable and logically thinking friends on this forum for support when you feel like crumbling under the pressure.