Bee,
I think it is so wonderful that you are choosing your children over a man. A lot of people would have not made the same decision.
As far as "getting over" someone...there are no easier answers. I wish there were. I know that you have heard the saying "Time will heal all wounds" but it is true. I have broken up with people that I thought I would never get over....but I did and you will too.

Stay strong and keep posting here,
Jessica

<font color=blue>The worst is over now and we can breathe again
I wanna hold you high, you steal my pain away
There’s so much left to learn, and no one left to fight
I wanna hold you high and steal your pain</font color=blue>
~Seether and Amy Lee