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Lemon said:What I would love is if not only could I have what she said, but to somehow know what she thought the 2 or 3 most important moments of the session were. I'm really curious if it would be the same as mine or completely different and something I forgot or wasn't aware of yet.
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Lemon, I read a really interesting study on just this topic in the psychology literature. Therapists were asked to listen to tapes (or maybe it was watch videos) of their sessions and pick out the most important/key moment. I think other therapists were also asked to listen to the tapes and do the same (listening to another therapist from themselves). Then the clients were asked to pick out the most important moment of the session to them. The therapists and clients rarely picked the same moments! It didn't matter if it was the therapist who had been providing the therapy or the third party therapists. They did not match to the clients' perceived most significant moments. The therapists tended to pick moments when they made "important" interpretations. The clients tended to pick "smaller" moments that nevertheless held great significance to them, such as "when he looked at me and smiled and I suddenly knew that there was hope for me after all." Or "when she used the word 'risk' near the beginning of the session to describe something and later in the session I realized that I was ready to take a big risk in my life and that I could do it." Therapists tended to pick out moments when they made insightful interpretations or even transference interpretations and made big connections for the client that they thought the client had not made on their own.
I would love to have a tape of my sessions. I hate to hear my voice on tape so I too would prefer to have just the T parts. Or even a transcript would be good.
I read some other papers in the psychology literature that had actual transcripts of psychotherapy sessions and every line spoken was identified as being in one of a number of categories (e.g. transference interpretation, frame discussion, etc.). What I most learned from these transcripts is that people can talk about really boring stuff in therapy!

I'm sure other people would feel the same way if they read transcripts of my sessions.