Hi Donna, I can actually relate to you so much because, like you, i'm post undergrad and moved back in, a lot of repression, wishing I was on my own etc. Obviously, because i'm in the same position I can't offer the best advice but I have realized that what helps me is to focus less on her (though she definitely still irks me) and more on understanding that I am an adult and figuring out how to live like one. Financially I would be homeless without her, and I do appreciate what I am given but more importantly, any change that is made now will be because of my own choices, decisions and actions. I say, set some goals, start small (one of mine involved telling my mom less about my choices before making them) and as you gradually accomplish them you might find that you feel more independant and though the irritable emotions will not resolve, it will become less or a stressor and more of a motivator. I hope I helped at least a little. *hugs* and good luck!