And I apologize to the op for making this thread about AA. It is not a safe place for anyone especially young ppl. But in Sweden they don't sentence sex offenders and violent criminals there that's true.

But I don't like the philosophy either. Try smart recovery, SOS secular recovery, women for sobriety, and others. I can't think that we'll, right now. But Google alternatives to AA.

I hope the best for you and your girlfriend op.